Why You Should Mess Up In Front Of Your Kids….

It was a long week with my husband traveling, pregnancy fatigue, and a testy toddler. I was putting said toddler to bed when we had one of those “one more….” episodes. You know the one more story, one more kiss, one more drink, one more prayer, and then the most awesome of them all “I need to poop” and then doesn’t actually go. I remember being so tired and just needing some time to myself and for her to go to bed so I snapped at her. I hated the look on her face after it happened, I instantly felt guilty and sincerely apologized. She was so sweet about it and instantly forgave me. Later, as I was thinking the event through I could sense this overwhelming feeling that I needed to give myself a little grace. I love my daughter so much and I do believe I am a good mom, but sometimes I mess up. Sometimes, I allow my emotions to get the best of me and I snap at my family. I also know that everyone else on this planet is human and struggles with the same things I do too. But how can we use these moments of weakness in ourselves to teach our children a better way?

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Have you been in my shoes mama’s? Have you ever done or said something to or in front of your kids and instantly regret it? I think most of us would say yes, but if not, I think you are missing out. Hear me out before you think I’m crazy. I believe it’s extremely important to teach our kids how to screw up. Yes, I’m serious. I don’t believe in the “perfect” mindset because it doesn’t exist. When we mess up and apologize, or make things right, we show our children that it’s okay to make mistakes (because even your sweet little baby will make mistakes as they grow). Mistakes allow us to grow and learn from different situations. When we teach our children how to fail in safe environments they won’t be so afraid to fail as they step out on their own at school and in friendships. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could help our children succeed at life by allowing them to see that failure doesn’t have to be the end?

I have a distinct memory of getting into an argument with my mom and sitting in my room so upset, I remember just hoping and praying she would come to my room to say sorry. Note: I’m sure my pre-teen self was in the wrong, but I still needed that feeling of acceptance, reconciliation and forgiveness. Like she always did, my mom came to my room after we both had time to settle and we both apologized. I used to love those moments because they were so freeing, I felt as though my mom would love me even if I really messed up (and sometimes I did-I know your shocked right?!). I think one of the best gifts we can give our children is to allow them to be free to make mistakes without the fear of ridicule or shame.

Wasn't I so cute?! ;)

Wasn’t I so cute?! 😉

So next time you find yourself wanting to protect your children from real life situations or from allowing them to see you cry/yell/get mad, think again. Give your children the gift of learning to deal with emotions and our imperfect beings. Apologize when you mess up, and forgive when they need to apologize to you.

Pregnancy #2 Weeks 1-15

I’m planning on sharing some details about this pregnancy as the weeks go on but I’ll probably break it up into a few week chunk at a time. I’ve always loved reading pregnancy updates so I hope you guys will enjoy this too!

How far along are you? 15 weeks! Into my second trimester already! Please excuse the no makeup, full of sunscreen, about to go to the pool picture below.

IMG_4723Here’s what baby is up to according to The Bump:

  • Baby is the size of a navel orange!
  • Baby has fingerprints
  • Baby is already forming vocal cords and teeth!

Total weight gain/loss: I’m down 2 pounds still, I’ve been super sick this time around.

Sleep: Sleep has not been my friend. Between extreme hip pain and having to go to the bathroom I don’t sleep well. But my amazing husband bought me a Snoogle and it’s life changing.

Best moment this week: Feeling the baby move! He/She is on the left side of my belly and I feel the movements in the mornings and nights (probably the only two times I can sit and really pay attention to the tiny movements).

Miss anything? This may sound shallow but alcohol. With the pumpkin beers starting to hit the shelves, I’ve been missing being able to indulge in a drink of two here and there.

Maternity clothes? Yep….pretty much since week 6. The bump is large and in charge and maternity clothing is so comfortable!

Movement? Yes and it’s wonderful

Food cravings: Food and I do not get along at the moment. Nothing ever sounds good, going to the grocery store is my worst enemy. Food just overall makes me sick, so I wouldn’t say I have any cravings right now, just things I can tolerate. Although I did get a random craving for Pasta Roni (gross) which I haven’t had since college, because it’s not even real food haha!

Anything making you queasy or sick? Um….everything?! But really…..

Gender: If I was to guess I would say boy, just based on how I’m feeling. This pregnancy has been completely different from my pregnancy with Charlotte. Plus one morning I woke up calling the baby the boy name we have picked out. Charlotte has said it’s a baby brother since day 1, we will find out soon!

Symptoms: Fatigue, this may sound weird but I normally hate to nap, I think it’s a waste of time. However, lately when Charlotte lays down for nap I’m down for the count. I nap probably 5 of the 7 days a week because I truly cannot not nap. My hip pain at night is really bad and since I’m in my second trimester I can no longer sleep on my back. I have to get up at night and walk around to relieve the pain in my hips. I also have been super sick. I never experienced morning sickness with Charlotte so this is a whole new experience for me. However, it’s all day everyday sickness for me….yuck. But to be honest, I’m just really focusing on being thankful that I am able to carry another beautiful baby in my body, and if that means being sick for awhile than I’ll endure it 🙂

Happy or moody most of the time: I would say happy! I haven’t cried that often (except at a chick flick the other night, haha!)

Looking forward to: Finding out the gender of this sweet baby

Fitness update: Because I’ve been so sick I haven’t done much working out. Last week was when I started adding fitness back into my routine. I’ve been doing a prenatal workout each morning and it’s been great.  Just trying to stay healthy and active for this little munchkin!

How is this pregnancy different than with Charlotte: With Charlotte I had extreme fatigue, like falling asleep on the couch at 6:30pm fatigue. I haven’t had that type of fatigue this pregnancy, which I’m okay with since I have a toddler to chase around! With Charlotte I didn’t experience morning sickness or food aversions but  this time I’ve been so sick, and it hasn’t been enjoyable. I’m truly sick all day everyday and struggle to find any type of food that sounds good to me. I’m trying to make sure I’m still eating balanced and healthy for this baby but some days it’s hard to not just eat toast for Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner.

 

Thanks for reading about how our little peanut is doing! Hope you’re having a great week!!

A BIG Announcement!!!

So lately I’ve been having a challenge finding the time to blog, and for a very good reason. I’ve been really sick, tired, and…….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

GROWING A BABY!

That’s right folks Charlotte is going to be a big sister and we are beyond stoked.

Big Sister!

Big Sister!

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Funny story….

After we found out we were expecting a baby we told Charlotte she was going to have a baby brother or sister, not really thinking she would understand or even remember. I took Charlotte to summer camp and when I went to pick her up the teacher pulled me aside. She excitedly said “Oh! Charlotte told us all about her baby brother and that you are going to name him Jesus!” Where does she get that haha??!

She has been extremely excited and sweet, she touches and kisses my belly all the time and asks when the baby is coming out, ha! Not for a LONG time, sister!

Amazing detail at only 7 weeks!

Amazing detail at only 7 weeks!

Baby Erickson is due March 3rd and we cannot wait to love on this new addition to our already amazing family. We feel so extremely blessed for the opportunity to have another child.

More details tomorrow……

God is so good!