Do You Believe You Are Not Enough?

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We live in a culture in which most of us fear being enough. There’s this fear among us that we will never be extraordinary enough to belong or to be loved. I see it everywhere in messages thrown around social media, that ordinary life isn’t good enough. I am a sucker for the reality show “The Bachelor” but this show is the perfect example of this mindset. Having men and women be flown off to exotic locations to have candlelit dinners on the beach and helicopter rides to private islands with champagne flowing and this is all to create “love”. When these men and women return to reality and quickly realize that love isn’t about these grand amazing gestures and butterflies they realize it wasn’t enough.

I believe, as women, this fear starts to control our lives. Are we good enough wives? Good enough mothers? Thin enough? Beautiful enough? Smart enough? Extraordinary enough? I didn’t get enough sleep, I don’t have enough money, there isn’t enough time, my child doesn’t eat enough vegetables, I don’t workout enough, I could seriously go on and on…

When does life start to become enough?

I believe life starts to become enough when we stop comparing it to others highlighted/edited lives. When we learn our true identity, passions, and goals. When we pursue the Lord in our daily lives and then choose to serve others before ourselves. I believe it becomes enough when we stop striving for perfection and learn the power of contentment. I believe life starts to become enough when we learn to work and fight for the things we believe in.

I want you to hear this today, you are enough. You are not a failure, no matter how many times you fail.

Do you ever stop to think about how unstoppable you would be if you really believed in who you were created to be? Daughters of the most high king, conquerors through Jesus, we were given the gift of an abundant life. That my friend, is extremely powerful. Our lives are meant to be more than just ‘enough’.

 

Perspective

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A few weeks ago at a MOPS meeting a mom had a heart-felt message to tell our group of women. What I learned from that message was life changing and I wanted to share some of that message with you today.

The mom pushed her daughter who was in a wheelchair up to the front of the room and began speaking. She spoke of the many fears she had when she pregnant, will the baby be healthy? Will I deliver prematurely? Will we adjust to parenthood well? Little did she know those questions would be the least of her concerns. When her daughter was just a few months old they noticed some abnormalities in her behaviors and body language. After a meeting with a doctor, and a few weeks later a specialist their biggest fears were realized. Their daughter was having hundreds of seizures a day and would not have the opportunity to develop normally, she would need a wheelchair, not be able to move much on her own, wouldn’t speak to her parents like most children can, the details are hard to listen to.

As I watched this mother tell us women about her daughter I couldn’t help but lose it, my heart ached for this mama. As parents all we want to do is protect our children, provide the best for them, and this mama couldn’t protect her daughter. The entire room had tears streaming down their face as this mama told us her and her daughter’s story but something almost unbelievable came out of this mama’s situation for her. She learned to completely trust in God’s goodness even if this situation didn’t seem good. She learned to give her children to God because in reality they aren’t really ours, we cannot control what does or doesn’t happen to them in their lives-even if we try. She has accepted their situation and started to use it for good things, her attitude was extremely inspiring and she shared with us how her daughter has been able to bless other’s lives in many ways.

So today, I have a challenge for us parents…..

Instead of getting frustrated that your kiddo has gotten out of bed for the 10th time when they should be going to sleep for the night….be thankful they are able to walk with their own two feet.

Instead of getting upset that your child won’t eat all their lunch….be thankful they can eat food on their own at all.

Instead of having a hard time when your child is having a tantrum….be thankful they can speak to you at all (can you imagine never being able to hear your child’s voice?)

Instead of living in fear of trying to protect our children from the dangers of this world….trust, trust that the amount of love you have for your children the Lord loves them even more.

Today let’s have perspective, let’s live with gratitude and enjoy the many blessings in our lives trusting that God’s goodness prevails even if it doesn’t look like it in the moment.

Easter Weekend Recap

I really hope you had a great Easter weekend because ours was ridiculously awesome. Spring here in Colorado has been really interesting-that’s how I’ll put it-another way to put it is snowy. In the beginning of the week we had heard that there was a potential for a blizzard mid-week, but being a native Coloradoan I didn’t think much of it. Well, come Wednesday it was absolutely insane! My husband left for work his normal time but I kept my eye/ear on the news in case this storm took a turn for the worse. Around 11am I started hearing about road closures (like major highways) so I called the hubby to tell him that if he didn’t leave now he may not be able to get home. All together from Wednesday morning to Thursday morning we ended up with 20 inches, yes TWENTY! However, the good news is that we ended up having daddy home for four days this weekend, yay!

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Thankfully I had purchased the things we needed to dye Easter eggs before the big blizzard came. It was a great indoor activity and Charlotte loved it!

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Once the snow cleared and the roads were drivable we went to visit my Grandma and had a great time chatting and having lunch together. Charlotte really enjoyed the time too, the Easter Bunny even came to visit her at Grandma’s! Charlotte was so excited about her pretty boa she received and couldn’t wait to get home to put it on our dog Maverick, ha! That evening we painted some pictures for the Easter Bunny with glitter paint.

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Sunday was Easter and it was such a wonderful day! We had church service in the morning celebrating that He is risen! During Charlotte’s nap I went for a three-mile run and the Easter Bunny made his appearance at our house! Charlotte was so excited when she woke up from nap, she kept gasping and saying “oh my goodness….” each time she ran into another egg. My favorite part of Easter though was doing resurrection eggs with my family. It was a beautiful moment of reading God’s word about the true meaning of Easter and having something tangible for Charlotte to hold onto, these will make a return every Easter from here on out. It was a wonderful long weekend spent with my family.

Tell me some highlights of your weekend….?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Foreboding Joy

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I believe one thing everyone craves having more of is joy, most of us feel joy starved. We have a hard time feeling joy even when our lives our going well. Our marriage is thriving, our career is becoming successful, our health is good, then we start thinking to ourselves oh crap, something bad is going to happen, life can’t be this good, darkness is around the corner. We start to feel vulnerable to attack when something (or everything) in our lives is going well. I have always considered myself a “realist” when I would constantly make disaster plans in my life. My husband would kiss me goodbye as he left for work in the morning and I would picture what I would do if he got into a car accident. I got pregnant with our daughter and I would be so worried about something horrible happening to my unborn child and I wasn’t able to control it. In my mind, if I could picture the worst case scenario of every situation I could plan the outcomes and be prepared for what was to come.

In the really great moments in life it was at times easier to live in disappointment knowing that something bad could happen; in this I would consequently feel less joy but also feel less pain. My biggest fear was being blindsided by pain or something terrible happening. Some of you know that my father unexpectedly passed away when I was twelve years old; he was in a motorcycle accident that took his life. One day we had a complete family and I felt safe and the next day it was all taken from me, in an instant I didn’t have a dad anymore. What could I have done to prepare myself for something like this? Could I have prevented my heart from being ripped out of my chest? I’m slowing starting to come to terms with these questions and the real answers. No matter how many times you feel as though you prepare yourself for tragedy it never compares to the true event.

The only way to combat the issue of foreboding joy is to live vulnerably in the moment. True joy and happiness are not the same thing, being happy is dependent on circumstances, joy is connected to true gratitude. Feeling joyful is not dependent upon what we do or don’t deserve and it surely doesn’t invite disaster to come to our door. Celebrating every moment and being grateful for the wonderful things in your life that you may have previously taken for granted.  Being truly present and truly vulnerable allows your heart to feel the joy of the moment. That moment when you look at your child and you feel as though your heart will explode with love and joy, soak in that moment for what it is-a blessing of parenthood. When you’re laying in bed next to your spouse and you wonder how in the heck you are so lucky to end up with someone like this? Allow that to fill your heart and build your marriage. Feeling the sun shining on your face as you close your eyes and hear your children playing in the driveway, this my friends, is gratitude fueled joy.

Friends, today lets be mindful of the many things we have to be grateful for. Let us be present in every moment, taking it as it is and not allowing our minds to wander to the what ifs…. Let us find true joy.

Reasons To Forgive Yourself

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“Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. Then your time on earth will be filled with glory”-Betty Smith

I am married to an optimist, who has helped me see life with a little more positive view. I am trying to find the beauty before the ugliness, to look at each day as an opportunity for greatness instead of challenges, to first notice and recognize the good-before anything else. I have always been really hard on myself and have in moments lacked any compassion for myself. There were many days that I laid my head on the pillow at night feeling as though I made too many mistakes to be redeemed. I wasn’t a good mom, I wasn’t a good wife, I didn’t use my time wisely, I didn’t get all the laundry done…the list could go on. When I learned to give myself some compassion and grace, with my head on that pillow, I knew tomorrow would be a bright new day with a chance to do it over. Yes, some days my patience run thin, I am full of complaints rather than gratitude, but I’m still going to make the choice to acknowledge the things I do right. No, I’m not perfect, and I never will be but why shame myself? Why keep myself trapped in negative thinking instead of learning to forgive myself and move on?

  1. Let’s forgive because Jesus loves us even though we fail. God loves us despite our behavior. He sees past the outward actions to the inner reasoning behind the action.
  2. When we acknowledge the mistake for what it is it can no longer hold us captive. I’m reading an amazing book by Brene Brown called Daring Greatly. One of my favorite things she said is this “Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Good, right?! I remember feeling so guilty for a long time about getting really excited for my daughters nap time. What kind of stay at home mom gets excited for their child to nap? Once I confessed this to a good friend she said she does the same thing, and she reminded me that their nap time is a time to rejuvenate ourselves too. We can only give what we have, using nap time to regain some patience, tenderness, creativity is a blessing not something to feel guilty about.
  3. Let’s forgive ourselves because we are truly a miracle. I find it interesting and sad that we all can look at a baby or a child and not be able to deny how much of a miracle their life is. However, when we look at ourselves we see flaws and shortcomings instead of the miracle we are. Let us remember that our Creator had an intimate idea of who we would grow to be when He created us, let’s hold onto that idea instead of allowing ‘life’ to dull that image.
  4. Unforgiveness (even with ourselves) is harmful to our physical bodies. Numerous studies have shown that holding onto unforgiveness can lead to awful things such as: sickness, high levels of stress, depression, etc. This reasoning alone should be enough for us to learn to forgive a little more easily.

Friends, today can be a new day for you, a new season. A time to start investing in things that will have positive effects on your mind, body, and spirit. Even if you feel as though your heart is too hard, it’s not. There’s still time to uproot the ‘weeds’ in our lives and in place of them plant beautiful flowers.

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” -2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV)